Arranging
your arsenal of groomsmen is no easy task. Directly put, it’s a delicate
process. You certainly don’t want to offend anyone while also putting
together a team of groomsmen that really means something to yourself. The list of groomsmen candidates could be far reaching depending on your family dynamic and circle of
friends. There are pals, old college roommates and childhood friends to
potentially consider. Here are some variables to think about.
First, the
number of groomsmen: You can ultimately go as far as you want with this, but it will
be important to consider the ratio with bridesmaids. You’ll also want to
keep some intimacy to how you want to create you’re overall group.
Anyone that doesn’t make the cut can be soothed over with a good conversation
and allowing them to participate in the wedding in other ways, such as helping
with seating.
One of the
tougher sticking points is often involving the brothers of the bride.
This could be dependent on how traditional you want to go and how large a group
you want to arrange. Have that conversation with your wife to be and see
how important it is to her. What’s most important here is that
you’re on the same page and if a challenge results, see it as a building block
in how to tackle for the future. At the end of the day, your
wedding party should be a balance of meaningful groomsmen that will bring a great
time to the day and be reliable in tending to their groomsmen duties.
As for the
best man, this can be a slam dunk or a major point of wrestling with.
When everything else is even, you may have to think a bit selfishly on this one
and choose the guy who will bring the most to the best man speech and have the sense to
balance class with humor. While your buddies may enjoy his twisted jokes
on the bachelor party, one must realize that the audience in a wedding isn’t all guys you used to do keg stands with in the backyard of your frat house.
At the end
of the day, choose an individual and individuals who are active part of your
lives. Groomsmen you know will be there and excited for you for the birth of
your kids and to break the champagne on the purchase of your first house.
Hopefully, there are memories from your wedding day that you can reflect on in
that house for a long time.
